Mother of the World.net had the amazing opportunity to catch up with wife, mom, teacher, mompreneur, and doctoral student Danielle Slaughter. Danielle has effortlessly built her business on showing women how to navigate motherhood while finding their place in the academy. Now, that she has successfully conquered the blogging world with the run of her blog Mamademics, and continuing her work as a contributing writer in Huffington Post. This well-rounded mompreneur is encouraging parents to raise social justice advocates. With the launch of her online course Raising an Advocate that has made such a positive impact in this world where “Black Lives truly matter!” Danielle Slaughter is certainly moving in the right direction to effect social justice and positive political change for many generations in the future.
Danielle Slaughter is a wife, mom, teacher, crafty mompreneur, and doctoral student, who encourages parents to raise social justice advocates. She shares her experience navigating motherhood while finding her place in the academy on Mamademics.com. Danielle is a graduate of the University of Michigan-Arbor and Georgia State University (GSU). She is a Detroit native currently residing in Atlanta with her husband, son, and pet turtle. Danielle is working on a doctorate in English at GSU and hopes to finish in 2017. She is a contributor for the Huffington Post, winner of Type-A Parent’s 2015 We Still Blog Awards, and a BlogHer ’16 VOTY honoree.
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MW: When did you start blogging?
DS: I’ve been blogging since I was in college back when online journals were all the rage. I started Mamademics in early 2012 right before the birth of my son.
MW: How did you come up with the name Mamademics for your blog?
DS: I’m a PhD student and I was really struggling with finding resources in regards to parenting while being an academic. I wanted my blog to reflect the intersections of my two identities as a mother and an academic. I threw around some names with a friend and she helped me come up with Mamademics.
MW: Why did you create Raising an Advocate?
DS: I started Raising an Advocate as a blog series initially, after receiving so many messages from mothers who were struggling with how to deal with the current racial climate and parenting. They wanted resources and I decided to start creating them. Eventually the blog posts weren’t enough, so I decided to use my teaching experience to build an online course that parents can keep coming back to in the future. What do you expect parents to receive for their children through taking this amazing course? This first course is all about exposing the privilege, prejudice, and pride that resides in you as an individual and then trying to identify how it trickles into your parenting. We work in our small groups to address what we can do every single day to model the advocacy we want our children to one do as well.
MW: Does being a mom get easier for you as you go along?
DS: Not at all. Every single day I feel like there’s something new for me to learn in regards to taking care of another person.
MW: What’s the best advice you’ve read or heard lately?
DS: It’s okay to yell sometimes. My best friend’s mother told her to tell me that recently when I freaked out about yelling at my son sometimes. I certainly don’t do it every day all day but I keep trying to never do it and then beating myself up when it happens. She told me that it’s just unrealistic to think I’ll never yell or that I’m damaging him forever by yelling once or twice a week, especially when I’ve used other methods. Sometimes our children need to see us as humans who are battling to control their emotions as well.
MW: What’s your best advice for juggling career and family?
DS: Can I say that the feminist in me really despises this question? Mainly, because no one ever asks my husband this question. My best advice is to stay as flexible as possible. Schedules are wonderful and help you provide structure for your family but you’ve gotta be able to adapt quickly. Also, family almost always comes first for me. It’s advice I received from a professor after I had my son. I always make sure that I’m scheduling in family time no matter how busy I might get with work.
MW: How do you and your husband Sterling divide your responsibilities?
DS: We’re a team. My job obviously allows me more flexibility during the week so I’m responsible for more of the childcare during the day but I tag him in after work or on the weekends. However, we don’t have a strict division system in regards to household duties. If something needs to be done, one of us just does it. I’m not big on cleaning, so he tends to handle the deep weekend cleaning and I try to keep the house “nice” during the week. Some weeks I do more and some weeks he does more. It all just depends on what our individual schedules look like. We also work very hard on communicating our needs. So, if I know I have a really hectic week and he does as well, we sit down and make a plan for outsourcing dinner that week.
MW: What surprised you about becoming a mom?
DS: That I would want to stay home with him as much as possible. I never saw myself as a work from home mom but I really enjoyed being his primary caretaker those first three years.
MW: When do you feel most beautiful?
DS: When I’ve taken a shower, washed and styled my hair, and I’m relaxing in a comfy pair of leggings and a t-shirt. Being comfortable and clean makes me feel beautiful.
MW: What’s the most important life lesson that you have learned through blogging, business, and family?
DS: Someone is always watching you. You never know who is reading your work or watching you in the store with your child. Plus, children are sponges and always paying attention to what’s transpiring.
MW: What one word would describe you for 2016?
DS: Yes. I read Shonda Rhimes book Year of Yes at the beginning of the year. It left such a strong impression on me that I’ve been saying “yes” to everything that I only would say “no” to because I’m afraid.