In 2014 many women are asking the question “Do we need men?” and the question moves even further when we ask the question “Do we need men to have children?” The women that have taken on their careers and choose not to get married, but they still have the desire to share their love with a child. Women desire to love someone and to nurture a young child without having or wanting a man to complete the package. The modern day woman who has chosen her career path and followed it until a certain age has major choices that have to be made in her life. The ability to have children without a man is a new concept that women are seeing as an option if it is done naturally, through adoption, surrogate, or other choices for the future. The answer to the question to if we need a man is yes, as a heterosexual woman you need a man to satisfy your romantic, human, and protective side of your life. In contrast other women may have other opinions that the answer is no that we do not need men to have children, or to start a family. They feel that they are able to take on both responsibilities as mother and father without the benefits of marriage or being in a union. I learned after the Travon Martin case that having a father in a young male’s life is very important to both the child and parent. I remember that I actually called my husband from Zimbabwe, expressing my feelings about the importance of his role in the family. I sincerely, believe that both the man and woman play vital roles in the development of the child male or female.
A man is the one that becomes the protector and guides the family.Through various means of discussing this issue in social media and in person conversations women have noticed a lack of men that they feel are suitable fathers for their children, with the increase of eligible men that are incarcerated, men that are in committed relationships, and others that are just not available for women that are in or above the age of thirty to have children. The dynamics of such relationships sway women to move into a direction of not desiring a man for children. The traditional approach of getting married, having 2.5 children, and the white picket fence can be a reality if we work together as a community to help women that feel that having children by themselves is the only option for their human development to complete themselves as a woman.
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