Monique is a Relationship Coach to women and founder of the Feminine Allure Academy™, an online charm school where she teaches women not only about their gift offering, but also the skills to become a woman who’s cared for and adored by the men we love. Monique has reached thousands of women teaching the virtues of feminine allure. A lawyer by training, Monique is a working woman who advocates relationships, graceful communication, self-mastery, and celibacy. Rather than using sexual energy, Monique uses her feminine allure manifest her birthright… to be cherished and adored. She teaches women how to do the same through private coaching sessions and virtual classes.
1. How and when was Feminine Allure Academy Founded? Total Woman’s Summit online event? Feminine Allure Academy was founded in 2012 as a modern day online charm school where I teach women the skills for healthy, intimate relationships. I believe that by concentrating on our own potential instead of his faults we become alluring. The Total Woman’s Summit first year was 2014, however with such a positive response I am looking forward to introducing a second season of the summit.
2. How do you help women create a vision for their ideal life? I equip women with skills and give women options through the Feminine Allure Academy’s virtues and practice. I teach women how to show up in a relationship in a different way. I give women a vision of what happens when we are able to tap into ourselves in a different way, this is done during our one on one sessions. I help women focus on their own potential and not the faults of their partner. I teach women to learn to advocate for themselves in relationships. I teach women to “create inspiration and not obligation.”
3. How did you become a relationship coach? I became a relationship coach based on my own struggles and personal life experiences. I started putting my ideas out into the world via You Tube and my blog, where women responded positively. Also, I trained with Laura Doyle a relationship coach and participated in her training to further my experience with working with women and relationships.
4. Who has inspired you in your life and why? My mother inspires me in my life. My mother has taught me about Christ and instilled the power of prayer. I’m also inspired by my good friend with whom her life is a living testimony. I view her as a living invitation, and she serves as a catalyst to propel me further into my walk with Christ.
5. How do you define success and how do you measure up to your definition? I believe that success is freedom, flexibility, and the ability to execute on my ideas and make them a reality. In terms of my work success it is recovering from a break up without rebounding with random relationships, it’s halting a divorce, or moving forward into a new relationship despite our fears and insecurities.
6. Is there any way in which your work influences your own relationships? Absolutely! I live my practice. It’s vital that I remain in integrity. Because of my work, I am able to identify triggers before I feel uncomfortable, before I start yelling, or “going off,” and I can identify when I am feeling anxious and needy which is evidence that I haven’t been taking care of my own needs and desires. I am able to look at the root of the situation and practice self-control before saying something that might diminish the connection that I have with my fiancé. I acknowledge that I have a choice in how things turn out, so I can either be “right “or be connected. I am able to look at the root of the situation and practice self control before engaging in a negative way with my partner. I teach self mastery to other women as a daily practice in the Feminine Allure Academy. I believe that these skills are invaluable and should be learned, practiced, and used in repetition in relationships.
7. How do you foster friendships with women? I foster friendships with women by showing sincere concern about the other person, being honest, and not being afraid to show my “under belly,” in the friendship. I believe that you should show warmth, and vulnerability towards other women, which takes work. Friendship is about deposits not withdrawals.
8. How do you stay motivated, passionate, and energized doing your relationship work? I stay motivated, passionate, and energized knowing that I am being of service, and getting good feedback from my clients. I value the legacy that this work creates for women and in women. Women are the keepers of the relationships, and are primarily responsible for home life, so it is very important to empower women. The legacy that we impart on our children, especially our daughters. The legacy of this work to help restore families. When we restore women, we restore relationships and thus restore families.