Many couples wonder how long it will take for marriage counseling to work. Ideally, good marriage counseling should be strategic and focus on helping the couple improve their marriage and to achieve their relationship goals. The couple and therapist should have a plan, and specific goals in mind, marriage counseling sessions can turn into opportunities to hash through recent issues as opposed to focusing on solutions.
The marriage counseling sessions should focus on the solutions to get to the root of the problems in the marriage. You both should agree that you are willing to fight for your marriage, and that you are both committed to the process of receiving marriage counseling. The primary goal is to save the marriage. The best thing to do is to continue with marriage counseling before heading off to a lawyer’s office to file for divorce.
It is important for unhappy couples to find new and better ways to relate to each other, before the marriage totally comes apart, and therapy cannot bring the couple back together for the greater good of the marriage. of course, even among the chaos and confusion of the marriage some couples are willing to fight for their marriage and not look to divorce as the final outcome in their union. When you are willing to remember the why of you became married in the first place.
The reasons why you stood in front of God, family, and friends and declared that you would be with that person for all of the days of your life, through sickness and in health, through richer or poorer, and the reason why that person means more to you than life. I think that couples should remember that they belong to God before they are in a union. God should lead the marriage in the right direction according to HIS will in the way that it should go with willing hearts and trustful spirits.
The goals of the couple should be at the forefront of the marriage to make the union stronger and build a firm foundation for the family. The unit should be able to withstand any hardships, and raw deep human emotions must be revealed to continue to build a healthy marriage. Marriage counseling is the key to plan an affective strategy for both the husband and wife, where the entire family will benefit from the work being done to improve the viability of the household.
4 Strategic Steps
1. The goals of the couple: The goals of the couple should be specific to what they want to get out of marriage counseling at the end of the counseling sessions, and overall to improve their marriage.
2. The specific needs of the couple: The specific needs of the couple should be presented as the first order of business during counseling
3. Commitment to the marriage and to marriage counseling: Both parties must be committed to doing the work, and committed to their marriage towards healthy improvement and growth to build a solid foundation for the family.
4. Willing to fight for your marriage: The fight for the marriage is key, to never give up, and to get to the root of the issues that may be destroying your communication, finances, or emotional link that connected you as a couple in the beginning of the marriage.
What are some steps that you are taking to continue in marriage counseling?