If you are like me you spend 99.9% of your time with your children, or the activities that you participate in have some type of children’s activity involved during the day. What I find to be most interesting is that most of my adult interaction happens during a playdate with my little prince or princess.
That is the time where I have the chance to have some adult conversation, chat about womanhood, discuss husband issues, and just to socialize with other busy women. However, the challenge becomes very real when I am meeting a new parent. Keeping my kids in line was a major part of my job description when they were little.
But as they are growing, my mother lioness instincts have to take a back seat in order to form some other type of healthy adult relationships. Given my tendency to still put my children’s behavior first, before committing to any other lasting relationship moments in my life. I am well aware that I am a work in progress when it comes to meeting new people outside of just being a parent.
The challenge becomes when the children are playing on the playdate and myself and the new mom actually have to start forming a conversation beyond our kids. How ironic is that? The reason why we are on the playdate is because of our children, but we have to try not to discuss our children to learn about each other?
I am not saying that our most prized commodities are not worth the conversation or the time, but as moms sometimes at least for me, I rarely get a chance to discuss the essence of myself. In fact, sometimes I can tend to forget the things that truly made me happy pre-marriage and children.
That is why I place such a high value on making new girlfriends on a playdate. Sometimes making new mom friends can feel a little awkward, a bit fearful, and sometimes it takes me back to my middle school days when meeting new people. I sometimes hesitate to make a commitment with a new mom when I figure out that scheduling the playdate can become a problem, the location, or the overall connection between myself and the new mom.
However, I never give up hope, because I love meeting new people! I think that the opportunity to grow new friendships is important for myself and my children. With that in mind I devised a list of the 5 best tips for making new girlfriends on a playdate.
5 Best tips
1. Plan the first playdate: That moment when I have hit it off with a new mom can be the most crucial moment of them all! I am still searching for things that we have in common while watching the kids. Try to pick a time and a place that works for both for you and the child.
2. Put yourself out there: The hardest thing is getting out of the door. I put my little princess in the stroller and head to the local playground, pool, or go for a walk around the neighborhood. I have met so many other moms just going to our little playground or being invited to birthday parties.
3. Get contact information: I think that it is important that after you break the ice and form a connection with a new mom girlfriend to exchange contact information to confirm the playdate. Find out what is the best way for her to be reached phone calls, texts, or emails. Exchanging contact information is a must, otherwise you may end up not following up with the playdate.
4. Confirm the location for the first playdate: Whether you want to meet at your local playground, have a playdate in your home or have a gym playdate? I think that is important to confirm location and time of the playdate.
5. Be open to new experiences: I think that it is important to be very open to new experiences and to think outside of the playdate box. By this I mean to be willing to plan playdates during naptimes, and shopping days.
How do you meet new girlfriends on a playdate?