I recently posed a thought-provoking question to all of my fantastic Facebook friends, “Is Work/Life Balance A Myth or a Machine?” I asked this particular question, basically because I think that I began having one of those days that felt very much out of balance in my personal and professional life. Some days I seem to take on the persona of the Mom from the Incredibles! I felt that my life began to look more like a “loose cannon,” and not a river flowing freely towards big goals. I think that working from home as a work-at-home mom can be very challenging, especially when I have a rambunctious three-year old home with me at all times during the day.
Sometimes it can just be difficult to take five minutes to have my own private thoughts in peace. When I am living as a transplant in my newly adopted state without a lot of family and friends in the area. The challenge of balancing it all is very real to date. I have discovered ways to keep my little princess occupied, while hands-on learning, and getting work done during the day, but it is not easy by any stretch of the imagination at all. However, I would not trade the time of being home with my daughter and doing what I love for anything in the world! Whether, I have a full-time job, side hustle, or being a stay-at-home mom balance is meaningful and worth it for the entire family.
At the same time, I do believe in discovering some sense of balance and normalcy within the non-stop game of “juggling,” which can become overwhelming, and a little too much to pull off successfully! I received a great number of insightful responses to this life-defining question with over forty honest comments to this Facebook post. The responses ranged in percentage, with almost ninety percent consensus that work/life balance is definitely a myth. But when you are fighting for your life, family, business, and career, it can become a machine!
Some of the responses from Facebook
1. It’s a constant work in progress. It’s the hardest fight ever!
2. Depends on the person and their end game. You have to set boundaries and know when to say no.
3. I left my job and took a pay cut, to spend more time with my daughter.
4. It’s a result of deliberate and purposeful self-care.
5. No myth! Women can do it all!
6. Integration more than balance.
7. Myth if the two aren’t the same. Machine if you are among the few of us who have fought hard for our lives, our business, and our business life.
Solutions to the responses
1. Start tracking and budgeting time and money.
2. Outsource your home duties: Get a housekeeper, baby sitter, ask family and friends for help, neighbors, create a village of support for you and your growing family.
3. Put together a planning and organization system that works for you.
4. Do not be afraid to say no to things that are not beneficial to your greater vision.
5. Do things that continue to make you happy and work towards inner peace daily!
6. Develop genuine relationships.
7. Plan the top 3 three things that you need to accomplish during the week.
Do you think work/life balance is a myth or a machine?