Sometimes in life as women you may think that you have to be the perfect wife, perfect mother, perfect daughter, perfect sister, perfect friend, perfect employee, but overtime you realize that there is no such thing as perfection. We are all flawed with imperfections in some way and we can only strive to be better daily. We can only work to make our marriage better, to treat our children with kindness and love and to teach them the direction that we would like for them to go. Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it Proverbs 22. We can only work within ourselves to find the encouragement that we need to balance career and family. We have to put faith ahead of everything else to reach our personal and professional goals. The key is to find balance between the things that you love and the ones that you love. You realize that perfection can become this mythical beast that can destroy your sense of self and well being in your life. You can always make room for improvement and self growth.
I remember that I had a desire to have all things perfect, especially in college and graduate school. I had the desire to write perfect papers, attend all of my classes without missing one day, join certain social and academic groups, stay organized and finish assignments a week before the due date. As I grew into adulthood, I began to want a perfect career, so teaching became a perfect fit. I knew that by becoming a teacher I would never be unemployed because everywhere around the world had children, and children need teachers. I wrote out a perfect plan for my life, from graduate school planning to move forward with my doctorate degree and become a professor at a major university, get married and have children after working in a university for five years. Also, I planned on teaching in a inner city school in New York, while pursuing a dancing and choreography career. However, life has a strange way of leading you in the direction that you belong and being a perfectionist at times is not part of the plan. I had to learn along the way that you could not create a seamless plan for life, and the creator decides your destiny. I use the symbol of the light house as a beacon of hope, growth, and light.
The creator is the one that is in control of your life, you really do not have any control in the master plan. I have learned to stay in prayer and let go of the perfectionist, and to be obedient and do his will. I no longer feel trapped by the perfectionist or the idea of perfectionism. I believe that growth is more important than perfectionism and developing relationships with people are very important attributes to have in life. I feel that when you are able to make divine connections with others beautiful things take place in divine ways.
“Let go and let God,” amazing things can happen not only to you as an individual, but to your family as well in a positive direction. I believe that blessings can begin to flow and unimaginable means of support begin to harvest from your seeds. I feel that when you are following your purpose, and stay true to your authentic self, you let go of the perfectionist. The perfectionist is no longer needed to lead an abundant and healthy life. You can find freedom and success within yourself and move forward without any regret, by living life to the fullest! Letting go of the perfectionist is a daily practice that takes hard work, dedication, prayer, repetition, persistence, and support from your family and friends.