This post is part of Resilient Film Blog Tour which I am thrilled to be a part of, which also kicks off Sexual Assault Awareness Month in April. To learn more and to join us as we tell the world just how resilient we really are http://womenrecharged.com/blogtour/
What does it mean to mean to be resilient? The road to resilience can be transforming and life changing experience if you are willing to be open and do the work. In order to understand the road to resiliency we must first define the word resilience.
Meriam Webster defines resilience as the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens: the ability of something to return to its original shape after it has been pulled, stretched, pressed, bent, etc. an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.
Bouncing Back from difficult experiences
When I heard about this film blog tour and found out that the topic was about resilience. I immediately jumped on the opportunity to share my blog post. I have avoided writing this reflective and painful blog post for two years. In my heart and soul, I felt that it was too painful for me to write and to share with the world.
However, I feel that my story could help or change someone’s life, especially if they have lost a loved one. I know what it is to work through grief and remain an anchor to a moving ship in the midst of a struggle and pain. I wanted to share my story about how I turned my pain into power.
Let me begin with the pain that occurred in my life almost two years ago to date, when I lost both of my parents due to old age and illness. My parents were my everything and I completely learned valuable life lessons from both my mother and father. To this day, I still yearn for their enduring presence, unconditional love, and heartfelt compassion in my life. I have to work everyday not to shed tears for my parents not being able to see my children’s milestones or the ability to pick up the phone at a moment’s notice to hear both my parent’s voices at the other end of the line.
The first question that came to mind was: How will I be an effective parent without having my mother and father physically in my life? I have never felt so alone, awkward, sad, defeated, and truly feeling like an adult orphan. I did not know how to explain to
my children that their grandparents were in heaven. Who would I have to talk to about my marriage, finances, go home to meals that only my mother could make, go on fishing trips with my father and receive knowledge aboutworld history and life? I wondered who would be my biggest cheerleader? Who would I call when I felt the need to confide in someone other than myself and my spouse? Who would encourage me to continue to move forward in the eye of any storm? I did not have the answer to any of these questions.
All I knew is that time heals all wounds. Healing past hurts or emotional wounds has been referred to by a number of names “inner healing,” healing of memories, and soul healing.
I found myself turning within my spiritual soul and truly growing in my faith. I discovered my true calling towards being resilient in order to take care of my own family. I began to truly trust and believe in God with my whole heart, mind, body, and soul. I became hungry for the word of God, and I found myself preparing my prayer closet and going deep into prayer and morning affirmations daily. One of my favorite scriptures is Psalm 147:3 HE heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds! I feel that God began to transform me and make me stronger as a wife, mother, and a child of God. God enabled me to trust in HIS good works that HE had within me and to find my power in the word of God and to take HIM as my true father.
God determined my destiny by opening up spiritual doors, and HE wanted me to be a faithful and resilient, to stand boldly and to be a more courageous and self aware person, to take the best care of my children to make my parents proud in heaven. I felt in my heart that I had to build a tougher skin to bounce back from difficult experiences. I had to dig deep within myself to set and achieve higher goals to create a legacy for my children. I had to learn to guard my heart, my mouth, and guard my spiritual gifts, and to set personal boundaries. At the same time really know and understand who my true friends were in the space of time that my parents passed away.
I had to really listen for God’s voice to help guide and protect my steps in the direction that I should go according to HIS will with the feet to move in the right direction in my life. I have to pray always at all times not only for me but in the spirit of Hannah to protect my husband and children. I had to be like David and find the spiritual armor that could fit in order to Goliath my day!
Turning your pain into power requires a certain level of resiliency, and that’s what Aprille Franks-Hunt has done with this amazing film, Unbroken Resilience.
Aprille Franks-Hunt decided to create a powerful film about her personal story as a rape survivor in hopes to shed light on a personal topic that many are forced to suppress.
She knows without a shadow of a doubt that this film has the power to change how women view themselves all over the world. We will not stand down-our voices will be heard!
You can support the film here: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/71001839/unbroken-resilience-short-film-to-empower-women-su