When Unbound asked me to write this blog post to help empower women and to support female sexual health and wellness. I knew that this would be a great opportunity to continue to empower women around the world. I really love their social mission and that they donate 6.9% of all profits to non-profit organizations in an effort to help women in countries such as India and Africa to reclaim their physical, emotional, and female wellness. The battle of self-love and self-acceptance is one that is ongoing but with great partnerships like Unbound, the next generation of Unbound women will declare their freedom and live a Big, Bold, and Beautiful Life!
I have always been a hopeless romantic. I can spend endless hours on end watching movies like Love and Basketball, The Notebook, with a big box of Kleenex handy by my side to prepare for those tear jerking moments in every movie scene. I simply adore taking long walks on a beach at night, candle light dinners, surprise vacations and unplanned getaways to undiscovered locations with my significant other. I love writing romantic thoughts in my journal, and reading magazines, and surfing the internet on dating ideas with my hubby. I simply adore writing poetry and reflecting on special times that were shared just living life. I enjoy taking hikes, spending time outdoors, having special date nights and just looking into each others eyes and laughing at each others jokes like nobody else is in the room, and dancing like nobody is watching than (BOOM) I wake up! My fantasies and dreams have taken a dramatic turn, when I decided to make the life-long decision to make a commitment to get married, and to grow my family. The playing field can sometimes become a juggling act between myself and my spouse, to set aside time for date nights and romantic evenings together as a couple without the children. Don’t get me wrong we love our children dearly, but the struggle can become very real!
But the reality is that while I am enjoying and embracing all of these special times, and remember at this stage a baby sitter must be involved because I am married with two small children. The romantic times have to be planned and scheduled on a planner to make them become a true reality. Also, in the back of my mind I am still that awkward teenage girl who never felt one hundred percent beautiful or popular with the cool kids in school. I have always been the tall, skinny, art nerd who loved to hide out in the band room, listening to Sting, and warming up to C&C Music Factory and being very content with spinning my flag in Winter Guard every year since my first days entering High School as a Freshman. I found that when I would have a boyfriend that I would pour everything that I had into that person, and somewhere into the equation I would forget about me, and somehow return to those insecurities from my teenage years. The days where my glasses were big, my hair never worked, and my style of dress at times on trend but truly all of my own. I remember that I loved Janet Jackson, so a lot of my style cues came from the super talented Ms. Jackson.
I think that if you partner that with my whimsical personality, you get the picture? But looking back as the empowered woman who I have become today that the road to self-acceptance and self-love has not been an easy one. I have to continuously remind myself at this point in life not to get lost in the shuffle of motherhood, being a wife, working on business, and taking care of my household. I have to continue to take care of my husband, children, and myself, I have to acknowledge and celebrate my goals and accomplishments as a woman.
I want my daughter to know that she is Unbound and free in her relationships, sexuality, beauty, talents, gifts, and love of the world. I strive to continue to be Unbound in my way of life and thinking in order to serve other women on this journey of self-love and self-acceptance. I know that life is about the journey and not the destination, and sometimes within the journey you discover who you really are in order to develop healthy relationships with others not just your soul mate. At the end of the day, I will remain a hopeless romantic, but one that is Unbound and learning to grow from my insecurities and not to let them overtake me!