The Debate on Spanking
Spanking children is a debate that parents have had since the beginning of time. The debate of good parent vs bad parent, timeout vs. the corner, spanking vs. lectures and long talks in order to discipline your child. The debate continues to this day on what discipline practices work for not only young children bu for teenagers. Parents have the daunting task of disciplining their child from the age of one. The feeling of guilt and remorse seem to haunt mothers if they decide to begin the process of spanking or not to spank their children. The discipline practices of children vary across cultures, social barriers, life experiences, and how the parent was raised by their parents, making the decision more difficult as it spans across generations. However, if you choose to stop the generational cycle and not continue to spank your children, it is the parent’s choice to do so, and use other forms of discipline.
Time out vs. Spanking
Children in this day and age rarely see spanking on television, social media, and within the community. The times have changed where spanking can be looked upon as a form of abuse or neglect by the parent, it is somewhat frowned upon in society. At the same time other parents do not believe that putting your child in timeout is effective or teaches children to listen and obey their parents. The more your child experiences a variety of discipline actions:
Such as taking items of pleasure away from your children for a certain period of time, not allowing your child to watch cartoons over the weekend, and not being allowed to play video games, or play on their ipad for a few days.
Pros and cons of spanking
Children today have so many technological advances that you have to include electronics in your discipline plan. Spanking may be seen as a tactic that may do more harm than good to a young child, only promoting fear and anguish towards the parent, spanking may also cause resentment and rebellion from the child. The parent may be expecting to get positive results.
Questions on spanking or not to spank
However, the root of the debate is what is truly best for the child? How can the child learn the difference between right and wrong? How can the child stop the behavior that has caused the parent to debate whether a spanking is necessary or not? These are questions that a parent,whether new to parenting or a veteran parent debate with on a daily basis. At the end of the day, you have to do what is best for you and your child. The main focus will be to choose more than one option for discipline. Parents should remain firm, strong, and focused on whatever choice is made for you and your children. If you are in a relationship, partnership, marriage, or single parent it is very important to agree with your partner, or if you are single parent make a decision for yourself on if spanking works for you. If you so choose other means all the above applies too. The Great Debate of Spanking continues!