Something that I have battled with since being blessed to become a wife and mother is disciplining my children. I have never believed in spanking my children or giving them rash long drawn out punishments if they misbehave or do something wrong while they are navigating through the world. At the same time, I remember getting spanked as a child and the only thing that it really accomplished is fear towards my parents, and a sore bottom. My desire is to stop the cycle and discover new ways to discipline my children including utilizing a great deal of communication, understanding, patience and time.
This very moment as my children are growing more into their authentic selves, it seems that my tactics have to become more serious, because life is more real and society is not the most safe and honest place today. With that being said that is why disciplining my children hurts me more than them, because I do not want my children to fall through the cracks and become a statistic, hang around toxic people, and learn things that I did not teach them at home.
I have poured so much into my children spiritually, emotionally, and intentionally, in their small lifetimes. I simply, could not bear for my little kingdom to become involved in negative things, and to be influenced by negative people. However, I am very realistic that some things are not within my power once they leave the comforts of home. I am well aware that my ability to protect my children twenty-four hours a day is nearly impossible in this day and age. But I do know that everything begins at home, and if I continue to set solid ground rules for their behavior along with workable expectations they have a chance of hearing “my voice,” in the back of their little heads before falling into the wrong crowd. My desire is that they will develop the tools of discernment to become leaders in a crowd full of people and not followers.
I want my children to become productive, praying, active members of society with enduring kindness, compassion, and willing hearts, to do the will of God. In addition to becoming young messengers of the word in order to teach others who may not know or believe in HIM. I know that when I place my faith first, maybe the discipline will not hurt as much!
But at the end of the day discipline is the greatest act of love that I can show to my children. I have to guide and lead them in the right direction to overcome any circumstances that they may face in life. I know that the hurt that I feel is only temporary, to secure and build their character for the future. This short-term experience in parenting will build the foundation of growth for a lifetime. So at the end of the day if it means that I may shed a few tears, give more hugs, and several more kisses when I am feeling hurt from disciplining my children. God and HIS beloved son Jesus will make a way to find immense comfort in knowing that I am doing the right thing to shape Godly children of the world.
Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”