Sometimes when I think of me-time as a work at home mom. I can start feeling a bit of mom guilt, or feel that I am being selfish just by using the word me. In contrast I believe that me-time is one of the most selfless acts that I can do as a mother. If I cannot take out a little time for myself during the day, week, or month, it can become a hazard to both my mental, spiritual, and emotional health. I feel that I cannot do the best for my family without taking out time to regroup, reenergize, and recharge, and become ready for the next adventure in motherhood. I am a better mother when I can take time to remember my authentic self. I think that me-time should have a new meaning, it should be called self-care time, where I take care of myself as a mom. I believe that I can’t help others, until I help myself. I cannot give back to my children and husband if I am not focused and fully ready for the job. I believe that I am healthier and more confident when I have self care time.
I feel less stressed out, I may want to just rest, go to the movies, go for a walk, read a good book, reconnect with a friend, pray and read the Bible or devotional. I think that self care time is a main component to living my best life. I think that things become more challenging when you do not live close to family and sitters can cost a lot of money. I think that when it is primarily my husband and I as the main care givers of our children self care time is more important for the family unit. My husband may need a guy’s night out for his self care time too. I do not forget his wants and needs, because we work as a team as a we guide and mentor our children. Self care time is important for the entire family unit. I think that it is important for me to make a plan to honor myself my mental, physical, and emotional needs. Self care by definition is taking care of self. I think that I should do at least one act of self care per day. I think that when I wake up, that I should know what part of the day I will put aside for self care. I can make an intention to mark things off my to do list that will improve my well being.
1.Self care involves exercise
I think that it is important to exercise at least three days a week. I believe that exercise is key to having healthy energy to take care of myself and my family.
The benefits of having a proper exercise program are priceless. I believe that the time that I spend to tone muscles, improve my cardiovascular system, clear my mind,
and develop more confidence by doing exercise. Exercise is important for getting and staying fit. I think that exercise helps to alleviate anxiety, decrease any stress, and increase relaxation. Also, various studies have shown that exercise helps to sharpen memory, and lead to a happier life overall. I love taking long walks with my daughter to the playground, and going for a jog back home.
2. Self Care involves reading a good book
I believe that when you take a few hours of the day out to read a good book it helps to build my vocabulary skills. I have time to focus on improving my mental capabilities and keep my brain active.
I think that everything that I read fills my head with new bits of information and knowledge. The more knowledge that I have the better equipped I am to tackle any challenge that may come my way during the week. I feel that reading a good book helps to reduce stress, and if I read before bedtime it encourages a good night’s sleep.
3. Self Care means planning a Mommy’s Day Out at least once a month
I am a stay at home, or if I worked all week planning a mommy’s day out is top on the priority list. I believe that when I am raising children that taking a few moments out should not make me feel guilty if I plan and choose the days wisely, and allow them to work with my family’s schedule. I am allowing my children to see me in a good state. I can afford to take a couple hours away from the household to take a yoga class, or have lunch with a friend.
4. Self Care is reconnecting with Friends
I think that it is critical to reconnect with friends. My friends mean the world to me, when I get a chance to spend time with my sister friends it gives me so much life! I could not imagine not being able to chat, learn, and build with my friends. I think that when I am able to reconnect with friends it gives me a different outlook on womanhood, parenthood, and my marriage. I can gain knowledge from sharing the same space with like minded women whether it is over brunch, dinner, or just window shopping. I believe that women, especially mothers have an unexplained bond and understanding that we share with one another daily.
How do you spend time for self-care?