Communication is vital in every relationship and it is something that should be practiced and executed in every way, it is important to guard your heart, mouth, and tongue because words can damage your spirit as much as a double-edged sword. I think that it is important to not only think before you speak, but to make sure that what you are speaking is full of truth, honesty, and trust. The ability to communicate effectively especially in the most stressful of situations is truly a gift from God that should not be taken from granted. The knowledge of asking God for wisdom to help you along in learning about communication is worthy towards working towards a better tomorrow!
Sometimes it is important to think about your words before you speak and how you deliver your message to other people. The delivery of the message is just as powerful as the words that come out of your mouth in every relationship. What I mean by this is in your relationship with your spouse, co-worker, close friend, children, and at times it can be communication with yourself. I suggest that you carry a notebook or journal and jot down some of your most intimate feelings and put them on paper.
So, when the time comes to communicate with that other person, or if you find yourself in a situation that is stressful you have a workable tool to help you move along towards more effective communication. That way if you are feeling down about a recent conversation, discussion, or angry moment in life, the journal is a great reference to do a major brain dump of your feelings from the event. Believe me this is hard work, and something that will have to be practiced daily! Once you realize that a lot of your communication may be in the fact that you feel that you are being misunderstood, unheard, unappreciated, and all these things are not productive for spiritual growth or mental health.
Furious feelings can really mess with your communication strategy, you may have been really enraged by a comment that your spouse might have said to you about finances or other marriage issues. When you are angry you tend to throw all effective forms of communication out of the window. However, it is crucial to work on self-control and being slow to anger by using gracious words. Spending a few seconds counting to ten, reflecting on your gratitude, and finding a space of solitude and fulfillment and just walking away are great tactics towards your communication goals.
Anger craves action, so try blowing off steam by doing something physical like exercising, taking a long walk, going for a run, or meditating or prayer. During the cooling off period it is a great time to return to your spouse with a clear mind to strive for a better conversation that will yield the best results. Getting different perspectives takes time, but they can work in your favor when your heart, mind, and body are in balance!